There’s a lot of myth and mystery surrounding the matchmaking industry, but it isn’t as difficult as it might seem. There’s a lot you can do to become your own DIY matchmaker.
Not everyone needs a contractor for home improvement projects. Similarly, not everyone needs a professional matchmaker working for them. Instead of starting your next DIY home project, start a DIY life project instead. You’ll love the results of your DIY matchmaking remodel.
Like contractors, matchmakers have resources, including a team of knowledgeable experts and a deep rolodex of high quality men and women. However, they’re not the only ones with people who can help.
Turn to your own network to find tools you need for your dating-life remodel. Enlist a team and thoughtfully approach your project.
Here are a few ideas to get your DIY matchmaking project rolling:
1. CALL YOUR CUPIDS
Studies have shown that you’re usually only two degrees of separation from the love of your life. Do your trusted friends and family members know just how ready you are to find love?
Your personal married-people network is more motivated than anyone to help you find what you’re looking for.
Consider sending a thought-out, positive message to a far-reaching team of those you trust. Include details about the kinds of men or women you are excited about meeting. Ask them to consider people in their lives who might fit well with you.
Friends and family are delighted and honored to help. Consider motivating them further by offering some grand prize to keep them interested in your success. You’d be surprised how often this works.
2. INSTALL A MAGIC TRUTH TELLING MIRROR
Many matchmakers delve into the client’s closet and grooming habits to look for simple ways to improve or update their look.
Enlist a stylish friend or family member to give insight about how you could improve your on-going presentation to the world. Tell them you want to maintain your identity, but want to get noticed more often by the opposite sex.
Ask them for insight on things like hairstyle, makeup trends, or wardrobe updates including shoes. Invite them over for a closet consultation. Have your unbiased third party look through your closet and get rid of things that aren’t helping your cause.
Plan a shopping trip to acquire new eye-catching ensembles. Investing a little time and money into your appearance will help you feel more confident and enjoy the process of looking for love.
3. RECRUIT A DATING COACH
Most matchmakers have clients meet with a coach on a regular basis to go over dating experiences, discuss potential prospects and identify new opportunities.
Offer a free regularly-scheduled lunch or dinner to someone with wisdom and great insights.
Working with someone like a coach increases your accountability and improves your dating related behavior. Have them hold your feet to the fire as you discuss dating dilemmas and successes.
If you don’t know where to begin, or your dating life is too complicated for a DIY project, that’s when it’s time to call the experts. A dating expert will help you discover new possibilities, help you identify obstacles or recommend options that will give you access to a team of experts who can help replenish your dating pool, optimize your approach and diversify your portfolio of dating strategies.
We invite you to learn more at our free seminars for men and women on Saturday, October 24th in Salt Lake City: http://www.theldsmatchmaker.com/#/events/