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Updated: Sep 19, 2018

By Kristin Sokol - Director of Online Dating Strategy

When you’re single, Valentine’s Day sometimes feels more like Single Awareness Day.  There are a few things that you can do TODAY to make sure this is your last Single Awareness Day ever.  

Albert Einstein once said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing you’ve always done expecting different results.  

Photo by: Paxelpics Photography
Photo by: Paxelpics Photography

If you want to be in a committed relationship next Valentine’s Day here’s FIVE different things you can do to shake up and improve your dating results. 

Get new photos

In this social media age, your photos are working for or against you every minute.  Hiring a professional photographer to refresh your photos on Facebook, LinkedIn and your online dating accounts is an easy way to get noticed.   

Have an Online Dating Makeover

Did you know more than a third of the marriages in the United States after 2012 are the result of online dating?  If you don’t have an account, it’s time to get out of your own way and join the party.  

Having an opportunity to see and screen the opposite sex before you meet is an easy way to generate new conversations leading to dates, relationships and marriage. 

If you have an online dating account, look at it and determine if it’s working. Here’s three ways to stand out online.  

  • Flirt up your greeting. A good greeting contains light, friendly content that invites likeminded matches to ask or comment about.  Keeping your greeting to 300-400 words provides just the right amount of content without being too lengthy. 

  • Check your stats.  Look at the way you answered the questions about height, weight, occupation etc.  Keep in mind that these are for filtering and searching purposes.  Make sure you’ve answered the questions in a way that would include you in as many search results as possible. 

  • Update your photos.  Most people use mediocre selfies and snapshots.  If you have a great professional photo, your presence will jump out and get clicks.    

Get a dating mentor

Enlist a friend or family member to take you to task on your relationship goals.  Ask them to be your dating mentor.  Have regular check-in’s to discuss dating strategies and experiences you’re having. Having someone else involved helps you stay motivated. 

Manage your digital footprint

When’s the last time you’ve Googled yourself?  What pops up?  Is it flattering?  If not, fix it.  Routinely managing your social media accounts, removing unflattering photos, tags or ideas you’re associated with is important to giving a good impression online. 

Create a dating Vision Board

Let the Law of Attraction work for you. Decide which characteristics in the opposite sex are most important and where you’d like to be in a year. Write it down or find images that represent your ideas.  Place the ideas and images in a journal or on a board that you can see and refer to often. Speaking and thinking positively about your goals will bring positive opportunities into your life.   

The LDS Matchmaker team has a proven record helping hundreds of singles just like you take advantage of new opportunities in attracting a match. If your past dating method isn’t working contact The LDS Matchmaker by phone at 801-495-1000, by email at or schedule your Dating Strategy session here


About the author:  Kristin Sokol is the Director of Online Dating Strategy for The LDS Matchmaker.  She’s also a published author and contributor for KSL and the Deseret Digital Media family. She’s made many guest appearances on KSL Radio and TV.  Kristin met her awesome husband Steve as a result of Online dating more than a decade ago. Together they have two beautiful daughters.  

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